A Birthday Tribute to My Mother, Mary Jane (Reed) Gartner

Mary Jane (Reed) Gartner September 24, 1922 – September 10, 2019

On September 24, 1922, Mary Jane (Reed) Gartner was born into a family whose name would become part of Rockville’s history. The daughter of Lewis Reed, founder of Reed Brothers Dodge, she came of age in the midst of a family business that spanned almost 100 years and three generations. Today, on her birthday, I dedicate this post to her memory.

It is impossible for me not to pause and reflect on what an extraordinary person she was. Like many, I have a handful of people in my life who truly inspire me, and my mom is at the very top of that list. From the earliest days of my life, she instilled in me a fundamental belief: if I set my mind to something, I could achieve it. She often said that “anything worth doing, is worth doing well,” and that motto has been a guiding light in everything I pursue. More than once, she reminded me that there is “no such thing as “can’t.” I should always look for reasons why I “can”. Because of that, I became fearless in reinventing myself as life changed, always striving to meet new challenges head-on.

One of the greatest joys of my adult life was the time we spent together exploring family history. On many afternoon visits with her, we went through hundreds of old photographs and stories that connected us to generations past. Many of the photographs had no documentation, so I relied on her remarkable memory; who the people were, where it was taken, the stories behind the faces. Those afternoons of listening and learning shaped the foundation of the books I’ve written and many of the posts I’ve shared on this blog. Without her willingness to share those details, the history I’ve documented would not be the same.

My mother carried the heart and energy of someone far younger. She never let age define what she could or couldn’t do. At 90 years old, she joined Facebook, and she didn’t stop there; she became a Skyper, a Texter, and easily navigated both iPhone and a Windows PC. Her fearless embrace of technology, when most would shy away, was inspiring to everyone around her. She proved that it’s never too late to learn something new.

Throughout my life, my mother was always my greatest supporter. She celebrated every achievement with pride, and one of my most cherished memories is having her in the audience in 2016 when I received the Arthur M. Wagman Award for Historic Preservation Communication from Peerless Rockville. The ceremony was held at Glenview Mansion, and while the recognition was a tremendous honor, what made it unforgettable was sharing it with her. As I looked out into the audience and saw her smile, I felt her joy. In that moment I knew the award wasn’t just mine, it was ours.

On this day, as I honor her birthday, I think of the countless ways she shaped my life. She taught me resilience, curiosity, and the importance of honoring the past while embracing the future. She lived with grace, humor, and a spirit that never grew old. Though I can no longer see her smile or hear her voice, I carry her with me every day in the lessons she taught, the love she gave, and the memories that continue to guide and inspire me.